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A person with an ESTJ (Extroversion, Sensing, Thinking, Judgment) personality type favors order and tradition over chaos and modernity. They hold strong beliefs about what is right and wrong, adhering to societal standards, especially when it comes to family and community. One of their goals is to bring families and communities together, which is a quality most endeared by others. They value trustworthiness, self-respect, and commitment to the utmost degree, which is why idleness and infidelity disturb them. They are true believers that the best way to build character is to work hard and honor one’s commitments.
Approximately 11 percent of the general population has an ESTJ personality. Although this personality type is not as common as others, it is a decent representation. The reason for this trend is because in democratic societies, the types of traits and characteristics exhibited by ESTJs are in demand. In fact, many American presidents are and were ESTJs, most likely because American presidents are strong proponents of following the law and respecting authority. These individuals also believe that trust and loyalty must be earned. They feel that people should lead by example, demonstrating a mixture of honesty and commitment.
Professional Qualities
ESTJs are hard workers who follow the rules religiously. ESTJs are reliable individuals who always behave and act according to the rules, so they uphold employer policies and standards. They are also consistent at work. They like to maintain order and do not do well in chaotic or disorganized work environments. ESTJs tend to complete their work on time, and they expect their co-workers to do the same. It is easy to lose the respect of this personality type quickly by cutting corners or dodging responsibilities.
A weakness of a person with an ESTJ personality is that they can be stubborn and rigid, especially if they are presented with weak and/or unrealistic ideas and suggestions. These individuals are typically open to new ideas and new methods, especially if it makes the work environment better. However, ESTJs will not test out the ideas by themselves; their main goal is to perform their jobs to the best of their abilities and to adhere to any rules and guidelines set by their employers. As mentioned earlier, ESTJs are loyal and committed workers, but their loyalty, respect, and commitment is contingent on how others treat them and their opinions of others. These individuals are not shy about voicing their concerns, beliefs, and opinions, especially when it comes to unacceptable behaviors.
ESTJs tend to do best in jobs that have structure and order. They also do well in jobs that have strict rules. They are loyal, respectful, and responsible individuals, therefore, they are likely to stay with one company, long term. Careers that are best suited for ESTJs include law enforcement, hospital workers, the military, paralegals, policymakers (congressmen), judges, and lawyers. They also make fantastic sales representatives, customer service agents, auditors, business administrators, and financial officers.
Relationship Qualities
ESTJs tend to have a unique way of approaching and managing romantic relationships. They rarely exhibit a noticeable change when transitioning from dating to a committed relationship. Those with this personality type value honesty, openness, and candor, which means they are clear about what they want from a partner and relationship, from the start. There is no mystery when it comes to what an ESTJ wants and needs in a relationship, so potential partners can rest assured that this person means what he or she says, and will not deviate from his or her goals and beliefs. As long as potential partners can accept that what an ESTJ says is final, then he or she will experience a long-standing relationship. Even though ESTJs are not spontaneous people, they take pleasure in going out with their significant others and having fun. They enjoy social activities and events; socializing is an ESTJ’s source of amusement.
Typically, everyone has a great time around this personality type, mostly because their excitement and enthusiasm is infectious. When it comes to friends, ESTJs are traditional, placing loyalty and dedication on a pedestal. These individuals tend to seek friendship from those who share their values and beliefs. Friends are bound to ESTJ personality types through activities, routines, and events that are mutually enjoyable. Friendships are typically based on common interests and a steadfast commitment to the relationship.
When it comes to parenting, ESTJs teach their children values, like hard-work, respect, honesty, commitment, and tradition. These parents tend to model their parenting styles after those in the 1950s, in which the father is strict, parents are to be respected, and rules are to be followed. ESTJ parents expect their offspring to portray a certain image and to always be polite and respectful. These parents will not tolerate disobedience. ESTJ parents tend to believe that assuming responsibility is the pinnacle of life, and they also believe that it should be the goal of all people to work toward the betterment of their families and communities.
- R. Y. Langham, PhD, Author Melissa Lavery, MS, Editor