The Value of Venting Your Feelings
You ever get tired of hearing someone complain all the time? Everybody knows someone, more like several, people who go around venting their emotions. If you are one of the millions of Facebooks you have probably seen the meme with the caption that read: “Today’s Facebook weather forecast is cloudy with 100% chance of drama and mood swings.” This article is going to explain why venting can actually be a healthy step toward personally growth, if done right anyway.
There is truth that all things are beneficial if done in moderation. Studies show that mental illness is on the rise with nearly half, if not more, people who take either antidepressants or antipsychotics have increased over the last few decades. It is also a notable observation that most people are not very good at expressing their emotions. Mental illness in and of itself is just repressed emotions. The secret to overcoming mental illness is learning how to manage your emotions. To do this you must learn how to properly express them.
The value of personal growth is grossly underestimated, especially in the United States. People are so caught up, and stressed out, with the activities of day to day living that they don’t take time to get the most important person in their physical life, themselves. In fact it is quite possible that many are afraid of themselves. Maybe they are afraid of their own power or what they could accomplish if they did such.
In the world of spirituality we notice that spiritual growth and emotions are tied together. A person who is afraid of their emotions, thereby unable to manage them properly and express themselves in a healthy way, likely will not experience any spiritual growth or any other type of personal growth. They will slowly settle into a humdrum mediocre lifestyle and tell themselves that they are just doing the best they can do. In other words they will develop a victim mentality.
There was one of those memes on Facebook the other day where the caption said that the healthiest people were the ones who cussed on occasion; even to the point of dropping an F-bomb. Like everything else this is ok on occasion. Like everything else if you are dropping F-bombs after every other word then you may have some serious anger issues that need to be addressed. Mainly take steps toward personal growth and self-development and get in touch with your emotions. If that means dropping 15-20 F-bombs in a matter of seconds then go for it. Just be respectful of those around you.
There is power in your thoughts. Once you learn how to manage your thought life you can experience victory and abundance virtually anywhere. You will also become more self-controlled. So when you first start to commit to personal growth you may drop a dozen, or few dozen, F-bombs. Maybe a healthy sign of self-development is that over time you will gradually wean yourself off of the F-bombs to where you only drop one or two a month.
The key when it comes to venting, especially with the use of F-bombs and other swear words, is to be respectful of others around you. Especially in a culture where many are offended by the least little thing. If you are overly expressive they may see you as having some type of a mental problem and try to get you to a mental hospital to get on some medication. If you are that expressive you are already on some good medication, namely being in tune with your emotions. This is a healthy sign of self-development in the area of Psychology.
So the next time you have that really annoying friend who always seems to be complaining about something, just try to empathize with them. They mainly just want to be listened to and acknowledged and know that someone out there cares. Sometimes you don’t even have to say anything but just be there for them. The most intimate of friendships are often the ones where the least words are spoken. If they use too many swear words then just be patient with them. Once they realize that someone cares they will usually soften. This will help develop the personal growth of the one who chooses to be a friend and listen not judge as well.
- Erwin Wooten
The Daily E Blog