The Inner Coach
THE VOICE IN your head wants you to UNDERSTAND things, and I’m going to say it really doesn’t; it often just wants to break away from a pattern and just vent and vent and vent, repeat things you often say to yourself, that are not resourceful and just keep you feeling bad about yourself, the situation, or stuck!
So lets start here: When we make up terrible pictures and then talk to ourself in a negative, demanding, berating voice it gives us a BAD FEELING. (Anxiety, stress & tension) And people do this so often, making internal images and they wait for it NOT to work out, and then when it doesn't work out, they get angry, they feel bad and the go into conflict with the other person, situation or results. "this is not what I want" Ok so we do this and it's not useful and it doesn't give us what we want. What do we do about it? We have to limit this VOICE, it’s the only voice we truly listen to – OUR OWN VOICE. And it’s not so smart, it’s not helping , it’s just a voice repeating in our heads about things that make us FEEL BAD and RUN BAD MOVIES and it never stops. SO First steps first, Assuming the world operates according to your inner thoughts, beliefs, values; and your movies of the mind and things you tell yourself is pretty much a recipe for continued disappointment. And it’s all just a thought, with images, and feelings attached to the thought you wanted to keep, when the reality is, the thing had changed. YES, it’s changed that’s the truth. Where’s your ability to accept what is, and let go of what you created in your mind? Can you make new pictures, images and a new sound track to go with what is now in the moment? People do this in relationships and then try to make the other person wrong because they were supposed to remain the same, and they didn’t And the arguments ensue, the “what if” of the situation has no bearing on “what is” - What could go terribly wrong, can - it's a possibility That’s reality – anything else is just THOUGHTS, JUST THOUGHTS and they change all the time. Just pay attention to your thoughts for a few minutes ...wow there is a lot going on in there WHAT IF I DON”T FEEL ENOUGH? What if we feel TOO MUCH? What if it takes us TOO LONG? What if we are ….not feeling any of that at all? Measuring – quantifying – and what outcome does it get us? A good or bad response to our own experience. You can change these deeply embedded commands, beliefs and strategies you have agreed to accept as your own, any time you want to. Contact Kathy Welter or Harry Nichols welterk@shaw.ca It does mean: * You will have to talk to yourself differently * You won’t be able to let people talk to you the way they have been * You will have to say who you are to yourself in new ways * See yourself differently, generate different feelings, images and even talk to yourself differently * Access resources that are within you * Remember a time when you could, and did, and the outcome was amazing… * And do that, instead of all the other stuff Sounds simple? Simplistic? Well it really is, and often its just a choice point…this or that? What do I want to feel? What do I want to experience, What if I do that now? Who would be upset with me? Who might think I’m unfeeling? Who might judge me? Would I judge myself? Questions only you can answer. To break any negative state – GO TO IT”S OPPOSITE - Anger = Laughter Fear = Laughter/doubt Resentment = Gratitude Loss = Peace, acceptance Impatient – patience Etc. Reach for the higher value the frequency that gives you the most resourceful state, and go there instead. In fact go there FIRST. And we'll need new questions to ask ourselves, and we'll need to figure out how to Pattern Interrupt our thinking, and STOP the inner drama of what I'm not, what I am not getting, who is not giving me what I want, and all that... We all have access to ALL OF IT, what makes us choose to be less resourceful, when we have so much to choose from? And on we breathe…. NLP and Hypnotherapy are two powerful resources to help you make these kinds of changes permanent and lasting. When you know what you want, really - nothing can stop you. https://www.thoughtmodels.com/nlp-practitioner-certification/ Contact Kathy for more information at welterk@shaw.ca 604-421-1722 |
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