Take Control of Your Problems!
Are you anxious or depressed a lot? Do you take a problem and run with it?
Do you think about a problem and just can’t get it to leave your mind?
Do you think you have to live with the problems that you have?
If you can answer yes to any of these questions then you may need some help taking control of your problems. You may need some help figuring out how you no longer have to just live with the problems that are in your life. You do have the right to take control and you do have the right to get rid of the problems that you have. There are many tips that can help you to do that.
For over 13 years, I have just decided that I had to live with my problems (being felt taken advantage of, not having enough motivation, having too much anxiety and others too). I just kept living in a state where I thought there were no solutions to my problems and when someone did offer me a solution I decided that it wasn’t possible to reach that solution.
Recently, I came across an online depression help course that has changed my way of thinking. I know now that if I change my way of thinking through the tips that are mentioned below that I can take control of my problems. You can take control of yours with these tips as well.
What are the tips to use to take control of your problems?
Taking control of your problems is entirely possible. As mentioned, for years I decided that my life was what it was and there was no changing that. I believed I was stuck where I was at and that I had no control over changing that.
The depression help course I talked about taught me that there were changes I could make, if I could first change my thinking and I am working on that a lot. It is helping.
You can change your problem into an action statement. If you have a problem that you are not sure what to do with you must first change that problem into an action statement. For example, if your problem is that your friends say that you don’t hang out with them enough. You are blaming your friends. If you think about how that problem affects you then you can change the problem into the action statement.
For example, “I won’t have healthy relationships with my friends if I don’t spend quality time with them.” You see how that works? Now, that you say “I” you are taking responsibility for the problem and you are taking control.
Next, you choose a problem in your life and break it down. For this exercise, let’s use the example that was brought about above. Let’s say that you have decided your action statement was “I won’t have healthy relationships with my friends if I don’t spend quality time with them.” I have had this problem in my life by the way. Now that you have your problem changed into an action statement you can break it down.
Asking yourself some questions can help you to break the statement down.
Where do you have this problem in your life?
When is this a problem for you?
Who is it a problem with?
Why is it a problem?
How does the problem affect you?
When you break the problem down into these little sections it will be much easier for you to work on when you are trying to get rid of the problem.
After you have done that, find a solution or multiple solutions to your problem. Now that you have asked yourself all of the questions above revolving around one of the problems that you feel you have in your life you can find a solution to that problem.
In this case, the solution might be to spend a few hours once a week getting out of the house and socializing with your friends. You may also want to have your friends over for dinner once a week. These are just some examples that I used with this problem in my life.
You have the ways to change problems into action statements and these statements into action. With the steps above you can get rid of the problems in your life. Just remember to have patience with yourself as you get comfortable working the problems and try to start with a smaller problem first until you get more comfortable.
Start taking control of your problems today.
- Iman Mohiki