Simple Tips for a Successful Long Distance Relationship
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You often hear people cautioning against getting involved in a long distance relationship, but they can work and there are many couples who are in it for the long haul even with many miles between them. This relationship works a bit differently than one where you can spend time with your partner on a regular basis, but you can capitalize on the differences and make this type of relationship work. There are a few tips you can start using today to ensure that you and your long distance partner have the strongest relationship possible.
Do Not Communicate Excessively
You do not have to constantly be in contact to ensure that your relationship is working. In fact, constant communication can actually be a negative thing for a long distance relationship. A random text here and there and then scheduling times for longer conversations are all you need to maintain your bond. When you do have a chance to sit down and talk, simply make it count and discuss the things that are happening in your life. Think of this as a date night and the only difference is that you are not sitting across from each other at a restaurant.
Use the Opportunity to Your Advantage
When you are in a long-term relationship, experts will tell you that you have to be able to live together and apart for the relationship to be successful. When you are in a long distance relationship, this gives you the chance to learn how to live apart. You need your own lives and your own friends and hobbies for a solid relationship. Plus, this distance will make your time together even more precious for both of you. Over time, the distance will actually help to make your relationship stronger.
Make Your Communication Creative
Skyping is a great way to chat with each other because you can actually see each other, but there are so many other options that allow you to get more creative. Go old school and sending a greeting card or a postcard from time to time to say “hi” and give your significant other a physical reminder that you are thinking of them. A short text to say “good night” or “good morning” are quick and simple and they do not have to turn into long conversations. The key is to keep it fun and simple so that both partners enjoy it.
Make Sure to Set Your Ground Rules
You two are living far apart, so having a good set of ground rules helps to manage boundaries and it makes sure that you both are on the same page. You should both discuss your boundaries and individual expectations so that both partners know where they stand. You want to know each other’s level of commitment too so that you are well aware of where this relationship is going. This is a conversation that you want to have early in your relationship so that both of you know what to expect.
Be Honest with Each Other
Let your partner know when you are going out with friends, so that he or she is not surprised when pictures surface on your social media. Think about what you tell partners that you date in your local area and tell these same things to someone you are in a long distance relationship with. This ensures transparency and helps to keep both of you up-to-date on what the other one is doing every day.
Plan Activities to Do Together
Just because you are miles apart, it does not mean that you cannot do things together. Get on Skype and do something like watch a movie together, take a walk or even do things like shopping or playing games. This helps you to have fun dates together even though you are unable to sit on the same couch to enjoy each other’s time.
Maintaining your long distance relationship is never going to be easy, but using the tips above will make it something that is possible. You will find that even without being able to physically be together, there are many things you can do to maintain the intimacy and bond in your relationship. Use the tips to keep things going and remember that when you do have a chance to be together, your time will be that much sweeter. Long distance relationships can work and you can find success for both you and your partner with the right mixture of tips and commitment.