Quit the Guilt Trip Once and For All

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Have you been making others feel bad for things that they didn’t do? Have you been making others think that things are their fault when they really aren’t? If you have done either of these things then it is likely that you are guilt tripping those people. There are many different reasons why someone may guilt trip someone else. Sometimes it is just out of habit, sometimes it is on purpose and sometimes you may not even know you are doing it until you look further into yourself. When you guilt trip someone you are causing them to feel bad and that is not healthy for any relationship. For over 15 years I had guilt tripped the people who I was in a relationship with. I had learned this habit from other family members of mine. When I was growing up I learned that in order to get what you wanted you just guilt trip someone and then you will get it. For a long time it worked but it did not allow me to have healthy or happy relationships and I wanted to change that. I found some great resources that have helped me to end guilt tripping once and for all. If you would like to do the same then you can follow these same great tips in your life.

What are some of the ways that you can end guilt tripping?

If you have been guilt tripping others then there are ways for you to stop doing this. When you guilt trip someone you are basically lying to them. You are making them feel bad for something that isn’t true. You are using false feelings on your part to make them do what you want them to do. This is not healthy for your relationship. If you would like to have healthier and happier relationships then you will need to end guilt tripping once and for all. There are many tips that can help you to do this.

Realize that one of the reasons that you lay a guilt trip is because you are angry. The majority of times when someone is laying a guilt trip is because they are angry. If you can figure out why you are angry and use healthier ways of expressing your anger then you can work on ending guilt tripping. One of the most common reasons that someone may use anger in guilt tripping is because they are burying down other more vulnerable feelings and transferring them into anger.

Recognize that you may be guilt tripping because your needs haven’t been met. After you have realized that your feelings are leading you to laying down a guilt trip then you will need to figure out that you are also guilt tripping because your needs haven’t been met. When someone doesn’t get what they want or need they can often blame someone else. This is commonly done through guilt tripping. To change this, recognize your wants and needs and find a healthier way to have them met instead of guilt tripping. Something that you can do is write down about your wants and needs and then calmly talk to that person about those wants and needs.

Realize you may be guilt tripping to get someone else to stop talking or arguing with you. If you aren’t comfortable with what the other person is saying then you may be laying a guilt trip on them so that they will stop talking. By doing this you are making them feel guilty about what they are saying causing them to apologize or feel bad. Nobody should ever have to feel guilty about expressing their feelings. If you do not agree or do not like what someone else is saying you can tell them this is in a calm way to see if you can come to an agreement.

Guilt tripping is not healthy for any relationship. If you have been guilt tripping someone (anyone for that matter) you can do the things that are mentioned above to end it once and for all. Think about how you feel when someone guilt trips you. Probably don’t feel very good right? Remember these feelings the next time you think about doing it to someone else.

-  Cara