On Repeat: Stop Negativity at Its Roots

Have you been struggling with the same thing in your life time and time again? Has your life been getting off track because of one negative pattern (overeating, addiction, etc.) that just doesn’t seem to go away? Do you find that you constantly turn back to negative patterns in your life after you have gotten away from them? Answering yes to any of these questions is something that almost every person on this earth can do. However, you are showing your strength by actually wanting to work on getting rid of negative patterns that are occurring in your life. Some of my negative patterns include alcoholism, ruining my relationships and failing at goals I tried. These were the biggest three and I know that many other people have these same patterns in their life so they are good examples to start with. If you really want to get rid of negative patterns in your life it must be understood that all of these negative patterns and others have one thing in common: there is a core issue that makes you turn back to them. There are many core issues that you will find here. If you can get to the bottom of the issue causing your negative patterns then you can overcome them and finally rid them from your life.

What are some of the core issues that cause negative patterns in life?

If you are human, and we know you are, then there is likely at least one negative pattern in your life. The first thing that you will need to do is to identify what negative patterns you have in your life. Do you want to get rid of these patterns and live a healthier and happier lifestyle? If you do then you will have to find the core issues behind the pattern. Once you do that then you can overcome the pattern itself.

You may not love yourself truly or you may not be taking care of yourself before others. One of the main core issues behind negative patterns is that someone does not take care of themselves before others or they do not love themselves truly. Do you find that you neglect yourself to take care of others wants and needs? Do you find that you talk down to yourself and/or talk badly about yourself? If you answer yes to either of these questions then this may be one of the core issues that you have. Some tips for overcoming this issue includes doing something for you every day and start saying no to others on the small things to start.

You may not be enjoying your life. Another one of the main core issues that is often behind a negative pattern is that someone may not enjoy their life. Do you find that you are bored with your daily routine or the work that you do? Do you find that you don’t have any hobbies that you truly enjoy? Are you frowning more than smiling? If you answer yes to any of these questions then you probably aren’t enjoying your life. Some tips to overcoming this issue are searching for a hobby that you can have fun with and if you have to switch to a job that you may like better.

You may not fully understand the negative pattern that you have. This core issue can sometimes be a little more difficult to understand. For me this came when I was destroying relationships. I kept just saying that I couldn’t find a good guy. Needless to say, while sometimes it may have been them it was mostly me. I was causing this negative pattern. In relationships I would always want to please them and not take care of myself. I would guilt trip them when they didn’t let me do what I wanted even though I wouldn’t have done it anyways because then I would have felt bad or pretended to feel bad (not sure on that one). You see the negative pattern didn’t have the cause that I originally thought. After I found the actual cause I was able to make changes and now I am improving my marriage with my husband when we were on the break of a divorce.

Overcome your negative patterns by finding your core issues! You will be happy that you did.

-  Cara