New Thoughts: Changing Anxiety and Depression
Dorian Innes has shared how he has personally had issues with depression and anxiety, where there were many multiple life factors occurring (loss of job, girlfriend, and a large chunk of friends). Inns has shared that he knew he needed to change hi thoughts to be more positive. He tried reading books, going to see motivational speakers, talking with friends and family, exercising, taking vitamins, everything except drugs. He was met with no success and at times felt even worse. He decided to try something else. He decided to write down all the reasons why he shouldn’t feel depressed or anxious. He found this to be successful. Innes has since shared the 20 thoughts that he recommends as a way to combat depression and anxiety.
Go ahead - Can you find 20 reasons that you don't need to feel depressed? Take out a sheet of paper, and write down some of your own thoughts.
1. In order to have good things, there must be bad things.
The author states, “Without one, the other couldn’t exist. So instead of lamenting the bad and celebrating the good, celebrate both. Celebrate the bad because it will eventually be good. And celebrate the good before it goes bad.”
2. You’ll never be perfect—just like everyone else.
Because no of us are perfect, that allows for diversity. With diversity comes the creation of magnificent ideas. And even better, no one expects us to be perfect, except maybe ourselves.
3. People are mean or angry or sad because they need to be at that time.
People’s emotions are temporary.
4. There is such a thing as too much of a good thing.
Know the limits and enjoy what you have.
5. You can’t control everything and everyone.
The only thing you can control is yourself. You can’t change the way things happen, but you can change your reaction to them.
6. Money and wealth are not the same.
Money is used to buy items. Wealth is having family and friends, and love.
7. You’re exactly where you are right now because that’s where you need to be.
You’ll only understand why in hindsight.
8. You don’t want or need to know the future.
Let the future surprise you. We can take steps in doing the right thing, but the outcome wil be seen as it presents itself.
9. No one will remember the little flub you made in the office or at home earlier.
Don’t let little mistake get in your way.
10. Life doesn’t assault you or throw curve balls at you; you get what you give.
The author states, “Think you deserve better? Give better.”
11. If you don’t like someone or they don’t like you it’s because you each see yourself in them.
12. Right now, at this instant, you have everything you need to be happy
The air in your lungs, blood in your veins, and lips to smile with. Enjoy what you have been given.
13. When things break and need mending . . .
It gives us something to do. Take care of things that need to be attended to.
14. Everyone makes mistakes.
Mistakes occur to everyone. Mistakes help us to grow.
15. Success has no standard definition.
The author states, “The beautiful thing is you get to define it for yourself.”
16. Life is very simple.
We just insist on complicating it. Each person is usually their own worst enemy.
17. You don’t need something to be happy.
You need someone—and that someone is you. You have the power to makes yourself happy or angry.
18. Just like you look up to someone, someone out there looks up to you.
19. There’s a lesson hidden in everything.
You just have to find it.
20. Other people have had your problems before and managed to overcome them. You can too.
These 20 sayings can help when you are feeling anxious or depressed. Dorian Innes states that he uses this and continues to have success with this strategy. If you are depressed or anxious, seeking professional evaluation is also important.
- Kim B.
I agree with many of the statements listed in this article, because they are worded to encourage us, to promote our self-esteem, and and to boost our self-confidence. In a lot of ways there are a lot of phrases that would be considered positive thinking ideas.
I agree whole-heartedly with the power of positive thinking, and I believe we should do much more of it, and I believe that it can only help us to become better and grow stronger as individuals. I think spending a life with the glass half full rather than half empty is much more pleasant.
I believe not every situation is good, but that does not have to mean that it is bad. The opposite of good is bad, and the opposite of positive is negative, of course. I don’t think that every bad circumstance or situation is negative. Clear as mud right?
I believe that there are some "painful" in life, but they are not objectively bad. For example, someone is struck by an object or falls to the ground and hits their head. They suffer a concussion because of the impact. They are taken to a doctor, who performs a battery of tests on them. The tests may include a CT Scan or an MRI, perhaps even both. During the diagnostic testing, it is determined that the injured person not only has a concussion, but also a brain tumor. The tumor would not have been discovered or diagnosed were it not for the injury that brought them to the doctor. What once appeared to be bad is now considered to be good!
The accident that caused the concussion might often be considered a bad situation. The diagnosis of a brain tumor is, at least to me, a worse scenario. However, not knowing about the brain tumor and having it grow creates a deadly outcome, which to me is far worse. Therefore, the diagnosis of a brain tumor is not necessarily bad either - Because now you can treat it!
See the forest and not just the trees. If I look at life and honestly recognize that most situations are either good or not so good rather than bad, my life will become much more open and positive than I could have ever dreamed.
Innes, D. (2012, December 9). 20 Thoughts To Help Relieve Anxiety and Depression. Retrieved December 22, 2014, from http://tinybuddha.com/blog/20-thoughts-to-help-relieve-anxiety-and-depression/
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