Myers-Briggs Personality Type: ESFJ "The Diplomat"
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Were you the popular kid in elementary school, high school, and/or college? Are you still popular as an adult – at work and in your personal life? Do you enjoy going to social events with childhood friends, college chums, work buddies, and/or family members? And, do you really want everyone in your inner circle to be happy? If you answered “YES” to one or more of these questions, I bet you have a “diplomat” personality. What is a “diplomat” personality? Well, according to the Myers-Briggs Personality Indicator, you are an ESFJ personality type. What is that? Well, it someone, who is a social butterfly.
In other words, if you are an ESFJ, you have probably always been popular. In fact, you were probably a cheerleader or jock in high school and/or college, and you are probably still “everyone’s best friend.” You are also an awesome host or hostess – everyone always has a good time when you are around. You tend to steal the spotlight – not because you are an “attention hog,” but because you are so dynamic, people want to be around you. You are also truly interested in what is happening with your friends and loved ones, so you make an effort to stay-up-to-date with what is happening in their lives.
And, truth-be-told, you are more concerned with your appearance and fashion sense than whether someone else is more popular then you. Although, you thrive on gossip, you use your skills for good not evil. You are an altruist, who always tries to do the right thing. You base your morals and values on established rules, guidelines, and standards, and you always try to uphold the law. A weakness – it is important for ESFJs to understand and acknowledge that people come from a variety of backgrounds and cultures, so what may be right and good to them, may be different to someone else. A strength – ESFJs love to help people, and feel the happiest when they are appreciated, respected, and valued.
E - Extroversion S – Sensing F - Feeling J - Judgement
How common is this personality type?
This personality is fairly common – it accounts for approximately 12% of the general population.
Do people with ESFJ personalities do well at work?
Yes, this personality type does fairly well at work. Why? Well, because they value order and the hierarchical chain. They also tend to be consistent and respect, and follow company-set rules and guidelines. They work best in a harmonious environment, and tend to use their social intelligence and kind-heartedness to make sure that everyone knows what to do, and is able to get their tasks completed in a timely nature. ESFJs are easy-going, resourceful, hard-working people, who respect authority.
A weakness – they may struggle when given too much autonomy, and asked to improvise, however, they thrive in workplaces that have structure. Moreover, they like having responsibilities, and managers and co-workers tend to respect their dedication to their jobs. Lastly, these individuals make good team players, and have no problem working with others to complete a task. ESTJs tend to have a lot of friends at work, and are always willing to lend a helping hand to a co-worker in need of assistance. The best thing about ESFJs in the workplace – they are fantastic networkers, so co-workers know who to go to if they need to complete a project by deadline.
Do people with ESFJ personalities have good relationships?
Yes, ESFJs tend to have really good romantic relationships. Why? Well, because they are the happiest when they feel a part of something else, and when others validate them. And, romantic relationships are very special to them. ESFJs tend to be loving, devoted, and supportive towards their partners. They also tend to offer them a stable, secure environment, which is extremely comforting to their partners. And, if you are involved with an ESFJ, you don’t have to worry about him or her cheating on you or using you, because they typically do not cheat or have “casual flings.”
The one thing that is important to an ESFJ is that their partner offer unconditional love and support to him or her, and that the relationship leads to something long-term like marriage. As friends, ESFJs are very social. In other words, they prefer large circle of friends versus one or two close friends. They also enjoy spending large amounts of time with other people. They are dedicated, warm people, who stand by their friends – no matter what. In addition, they are always around to offer their friends unconditional love and support. The worst thing you can do to an ESFJ is to pretend to be their friend, because this personality tends to be trusting. Lying or deceiving ESFJs is the worst thing you can do to them. It crushes them.
As parents, ESFJs are warm and caring towards their children. They are also dedicated and affectionate parents, who really want to make a positive impact in their children’s lives. Don’t get me wrong they are still firm parents, but they are also understanding and sensitive. They tend to establish rules and standards, without being too overbearing and pushy. They are compassionate and value every moment with their children. Children of ESFJ parents tend to grow up happy and safe.
What types of jobs are best suited for those with ESFJ personalities?
ESFJs work best in organized and structure environments. They like clear instructions and predictable tasks so, they do best as business administrators and teachers. They also do well as event organizers and party hostess. Moreover, they are bound to excel as sales representatives, nurses, and social workers.
Do any famous people have an ESFJ personality?
Yes! Listed below are respected ESFJ personalities:
16 Personalities. (2015). ESFJ Personality (“The Consul”). Retrieved from http://www.16personalities.com/esfj-personality OPP. (2015). ESFJ: MBTI® personality profile. Retrieved from https://www.opp.com/en/tools/MBTI/MBTI-personality-types/ESFJ