Assessing People Who Are Truly Genuine
You often hear about "fake" and "genuine" people, but what attributes make someone truly genuine? You want to know what these attributes are because you want them to apply to you. Genuine people do better at work and school and they have better personal relationships. There are seven primary traits that are common among genuine people and these are traits that you can work on and develop in yourself.
Speaking Your Mind
When someone is genuine, they speak their mind out of habit. Their thoughts and feelings about various topics and situations seem to come out naturally. However, they reveal this diplomatically and they do not attempt to exert power over others who may not share their thoughts and beliefs. They do not feel the need to convince other people that they are right when it comes to their thoughts and opinions. They simply want to express and show others that there are different perspectives out there.
They Forge Their Own Path
When someone is genuine, they not only make it clear verbally when it comes to what they want, but they also walk the walk. They do not follow in the shadows of others because they want things and they are working toward getting them. They will have strong goals and a plan to achieve them, both in conventional ways and ways that can get quite creative. However, they will never harm others or purposely step on anyone's toes to get ahead and reach their goals. In fact, when genuine people are successful, they usually bring people along for the right.
They Only Respond to Internal Expectations
There are two types of expectations, including internal and external expectations. External expectations are what other people and society expect from you. It is easy to try to live up to these because it is natural to want to make other people happy. However, genuine people do not give into societal and peer pressure. They set expectations for themselves and they work hard to live up to them. Their goals are their own and when they create their goals, they are creating them for themselves and not to please or impress other people.
They Always Admit to Their Faults
Everyone has faults and this is just a normal part of being human. However, it is not easy to admit your faults or when you are wrong about something. Genuine people have no problem admitting when they are wrong or being honest about their faults. They know that when they admit their mistakes and are honest about their faults that this actually benefits them. It allows them to make the right changes due to learning from their faults and mistakes. This makes them more genuine and usually also helps them to be more successful.
Failure Never Threatens Them
No one wants to fail, but it is inevitable because life is never going to be perfect. Genuine people work hard, but they know that failure can happen and they are never threatened by it. This allows them to take calculated risks that often pay off for them. They also know that if failure occurs, it has a silver lining because it serves as a way to learn from mistakes so that they are not made again in the future. In fact, they know that some of the best lessons are learned as a result of failure.
They Make it a Point to Not Judge Others
Judging other people serves no real purpose and genuine people know this. Genuine people are too busy working on improving themselves and overcoming their own faults that they do not have the time to judge other people. Genuine people also know that helping others and lifting other people up is the best way to improve yourself. In fact, those who help others and volunteer often tend to be more productive, healthier, more successful and much happier than those who avoid volunteering and helping others.
You probably already have most, if not all, of these traits. However, you can make them stronger and work on becoming a more genuine person. You are always a work in progress and your genuineness is something that can always be tweaked even if you possess all of the traits above and they are strong. When you are genuine, you will know because people will naturally find you appealing and want to be around you.
- Rosemary Kitchen
Haden, J. 6 Habits of Remarkable Likable People. Retrieved on March 20, 2015 from http://www.inc.com/jeff-haden/6-habits-of-remarkably-likeable-people.html
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