How to Tell If You Are Really in Love

“Love isn't something you find. Love is something that finds you.”

~Loretta Young

Did you recently “fall in love” with someone? Are you sure that you are really “in love,” or, could it be that you only think you are “in love?” If you really are “in love” then kudos to you - but what if you are not “in love?” Then what? How can you tell if you are really in love or not? Well, if you recently entered a relationship, or you have been in one for the past few months, but still do not know for sure if you are “in love,” you have come to the right place because this article will help you determine, if you have really been shot with Cupid’s arrow, or if you only think you have. Truth-be-told, it is easy to get swept up in a sea of emotions, especially when you first start dating someone, but many times, over time, the illusion fades, and you are left with the “real” person, who you may not have anything in common with.

And, if we are truthful with ourselves, we have to admit that, “Yes, I want to be “in love.” There is nothing wrong with wanting to be “in love,” the problem herein lies in the fact, that although you may want to be “in love,” you may not be. Instead, you may be in like or lust. And, when you want to be “in love” so badly, it can cause you to choose the wrong person for you. That is why it is so important that you follow these tips. You don’t want to be in a “dead end” or unhealthy relationship because you thought you were “in love,” when in actuality you weren’t. So, if you are looking for ways to know, if you are really “in love” – keep reading, and you will find the answer.

Listed below are ways to tell, if you are really in love:

What Are You Really Feeling?

How does your partner make you feel? If you want to know, if you are really in love, know that when you are truly “in love,” your body produces endorphins, which make you feel “high” and “energized.” Because of the flux of hormones, most people block out everyone and everything else. For instance, when you are “in love” you may quit spending time with your friends and family. Your work productivity and grades may also decline during this time.  Moreover, your loved ones may lament your change in personality, but you will not care. Why? Well, because you are “in love.”

Does the World Look Better?

Does everything look more enhanced now that you are “in love?” Well, if the world looks brighter and better, then you just may be really “in love.” When you are “in love,” everything seems clearer, better, and more vibrant. The leaves on the trees seems greener, the apple you are eating looks redder, etc. Plus, you are more positive – you love everyone, and in your mind, life is good. Almost nothing can really upset you, during this lovey-dovey period.

Do You Have A lot in Common?

What do you really know about your partner? Although this is not the end all or be all of relationships, it helps to have things in common, if you are committed to someone. In fact, most people, who are “in love,” have many things in common. Note: No two people will have everything in common, but it is important to share some common interests.  Do you and your partner share the same tastes in movies, music, and/or comedy? Do you like the same hobbies and/or activities? Or, do you share the same values and beliefs?  How much do you really have in common?

Are You Affectionate with One Another?

Do you like to kiss and hug your partner? Yes? No? Well, when you are “in love,” you love “touching” your partner. In other words, you love sweet kisses and comforting hugs from your significant other. You also are physically intimate with one another. Why? Well, because you are attracted to each other – body and mind.  You may even get on your friends’ nerves because you are always cuddling, kissing, and hugging. You want your partner to know how much you love him or her, so you are affectionate towards him or her. If you do not want to “touch” your partner, in any form or fashion, you may not be really “in love” with him or her.

Do You Want to See Each Other All of the Time?

When was the last time you saw your partner?  Can’t remember? Well, if you can’t remember the last time you saw your partner, then you may not be really “in love” with him or her. But, on the other hand, if you can’t wait to see him or her, you may just really be “in love.” When you are “in love” you want to spend every waking and sleeping minute with him or her. You can’t get enough of him or her, and you want to be with him or her more than anything else. If you do not have time for your partner, there is a good chance you are not really “in love” with him or her. For instance, if you would rather spend time with friends or co-workers, than your partner, you probably aren’t really “in love.”

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