How to Rebuild a Broken Relationship

Are you in a relationship that seems to be falling apart? Are you in a relationship that seems like it can’t be fixed? Are you in a relationship where one person or the other has committed something that seems like the unrepairable? If you can answer yes to any of these questions then you have somewhere to start.

There are many people who are in a relationship that will end the relationship when it seems broken just because they don’t know what to do. I am hoping that by sharing experiences of mine this will help all of you find the opportunity to repair your relationship. I have been married to my wonderful husband for almost 2 years and we have been together for almost 5 years. Time and time again I have broken his trust and he kept forgiving me. The last time that I broke his trust we were looking at a divorce. We are currently living separated but still married. When I first moved out I thought it was done. I thought there was no way to fix things this time.

However, we are currently talking and spending some time together like we never really have before. Recently, I realized that one of the main reasons that I have broken his trust so much was because of my past: I have been molested, raped and multiple instances of sexual abuse. I had never connected to my husband emotionally. I just couldn’t let myself go there. I am working on all of these issues now and he is supporting me through them.

What are Some of the Most Common Reasons for Broken Relationships?

Many people who are in a broken relationship do not even know where or when their relationship went downhill. If you can figure this out then you will have a starting point for rebuilding your relationship. Some of the most common reasons for a broken relationship are infidelity, emotional abuse, physical abuse and more. When something happens in a relationship to tear two people apart it can be very difficult to put things back together again.

If you are in a relationship where one or both of you have committed infidelity, you may hear from many people that the relationship isn’t worth saving. I truly believe that there is a reason for everything. Now, this isn’t saying that if someone commits infidelity that they can make excuses or blame others but they do need to search deep down to figure out why they committed infidelity in the first place. The person who has done this should ask themselves the following questions:

·         What attracted you to the other person?

·         Was there something the other person had that you wish your relationship partner had?

·         Were you feeling lonely?

·         Does something in your past relate to why you may have committed infidelity?

Asking yourself these questions can help you to assess the reasons for your infidelity. If the other person in your relationship is willing to forgive you or work with you on rebuilding the trust that has been broken and you want to be in that relationship, then these questions can help to build onto something more. My husband has forgiven me and I have made a vow never to be unfaithful again. I realized my past had a lot to do with all my choices but I chose not to work on those things in the past and I am doing so now so that my future with my husband can look up again.

If you are in a relationship where there is emotional abuse or physical abuse there are choices that will need to be made. Constant emotional abuse and/or physical abuse that has not stopped may be the end of a relationship. However, if the person dishing out the emotional abuse is willing to assess the reasons why they are doing this to the person they love and make changes to create a healthier relationship then there is hope. Some questions that the abuser may want to ask themselves are the following:

·         Were you abused in the past in anyway?

·         What type of household did you grow up in?

·         How were your past relationships?

If the abuser asks themselves these questions then they may be able to change their ways.

Relationships must have a healthy foundation. The majority of time, when a relationship is broken down there isn’t a healthy foundation. This can change. If both of you are willing to make changes and create a relationship worth fighting for then rebuilding a broken relationship is possible! My husband and I are fighting for our marriage and we have been through canyons and back. This shows there is hope out there for all of you.