Dr. Shefali Tsabary:  Your Child Is Unique

Dr. Shefali Tsabary: Your Child is Not You

When it comes to parenting we all know that no two children are alike. Whether you are raising just one child or five of them, you will find that each child has their own strengths as weaknesses. Unfortunately, many parents look at their children as if they were themselves. This can often lead to a misrepresentation of who your child really is and it can greatly lower your child’s self-esteem as well. If you have done this then don’t worry, it is never too late to make changes in your parenting style. In fact, Dr. Shefali Tsabary, a clinical psychologist, has all of the information that you could need. Learning more about her and her efforts in teaching parenting skills and techniques can help you to stop treating your child as if they were you. Your child is a unique individual and they must be treated as such. You can learn a lot of Dr. Shefali Tsabary and even a lot from her book, The Conscious Parent.

Why can’t you create the perfect child?
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One of the many things that Dr. Shefali Tsabary has worked on is teaching the lesson that there is no such thing as a perfect child and if you try to raise your child to think that they have to be perfect, you are going to find that they withdraw and have many self-esteem issues. You can’t create the perfect child, but you can help your child to grow up to be unique to themselves and help them to learn how to have confidence in themselves as well.

Why shouldn’t you think of your children as a version of you?

Almost every single parent has heard someone say or they have said themselves that their child was a mini-me. This means the parent thinks that the child acts like them or behaves like them. When a parent thinks of their child as a version of themselves, the emotional baggage that they carry around gets handed on down to their child. Dr. Shefali Tsabary believes and teaches that each child should be treated as their own being and not as if they have to follow in their parent’s shoes. If you are like many parents, then part of your personal development plan may be to change your parenting habits and Dr. Shefali Tsabary can help you to do that.

What does Dr. Shefali Tsabary say about who children really are?

When you look more into the teachings of Dr. Shefali Tsabary you will learn all about who she believes children really are. Now, this is not to say that she thinks in any way that all children are the same, because that is the complete opposite of her beliefs. However, she believes that children are free-thinkers, expressive beings and who all have their own interests and inner spirits. She also says that they are not a parent’s possessions and a parent should not try to control them but to lead them instead.

What does Dr. Shefali Tsabary say about conscious parenting?

The parenting portion of your personal development plan can be pushed along much farther with the use of conscious parenting. Dr. Tsabary says that conscious parenting is a journey that never ends. You never reach perfection as a parent or as a human, but you are constantly moving forward and evolving. She says that once you are able to work on your conscious parenting you will be able to learn so much more about your children, and much of this is information that you may have missed before applying these skills.

A personal development plan for your parenting style can be an excellent idea and following along with the teachings of Dr. Tsabary can help you to grow as a conscious parent. Your child will mimic you and your behaviors but that does not make them you. Your child will learn from you, and by becoming a conscious parent you can teach your child or your children that every human being (including children) is unique to themselves and can become whomever they wish to become. Conscious parenting is growing as a popular form or parenting, and Dr. Tsabary is helping that growth happen each and every day.

By: Cara Havens
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Resources: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/05/16/dr-shefali-relate-children_n_5340279.html