Choose Your Battles Wisely
Are you constantly defending yourself in everything that you do? Do you find that you are arguing more than you would like to with others? Do you feel defensive about everything that you believe in when someone else doesn’t agree? If you realize any of these things then it is likely that you aren’t choosing your battles. You are trying to fight every single one. Don’t worry too much because many people do this and I know I did it for years. I still sometimes fight way more battles than I would like to but I am getting better picking the ones that are the most important to me. There are many reasons why you should choose your battles. You see your life is yours to live which means you can have your own beliefs. You can’t expect everyone else to agree with you and you don’t have to prove yourself either. I was constantly fighting for others to believe what I believed or for them to agree with me on everything. This is one of the factors that had pushed me into depression which I have now overcome.
What are some of the reasons for choosing only the important battles?
Standing up for only the important battles or beliefs that you have can lead to a happier life. If you are always arguing with everyone because they aren’t on your side or they don’t agree with a choice that you have made then you will be wasting a lot of precious time that you could be using being happy with your choices. There are many reasons for choosing only the important battles in your life as I have come to find out and hope others can to.
Your beliefs aren’t necessarily someone else’s and that is alright. One of the first things that you can realize is that the beliefs that you have and the choices that you make aren’t necessarily going to be someone else’s first choice. The great thing about life is that everyone can have their own opinions. You wouldn’t want someone else forcing their beliefs and choices on you right? Yes so try not to do this to others. I have actually ruined many relationships that I have had trying to make others see my view too much.
Life isn’t endless so why spend it arguing. We all know just as much as the next person (although this is easily forgotten) that life does not go on forever. While it is very unfortunate, none of us know when our last day will be. So why spend a lot of your time arguing when you could be doing much more enjoyable things? There is no reason so start choosing only the things that are most important to you to fight for and leave the rest to yourself.
Some people just aren’t going to change their minds. It is not your job to change their minds either. You see some people are more close-minded than others and they aren’t going to change their feelings, thoughts or minds no matter how hard you try. Wasting your energy and time is all that is going to happen so sometimes you just have to walk away and be content.
Life’s battles are endless but you don’t have to choose them all. With the tips above you can stop arguing as much and you can just be happy with the beliefs and the choices that you have made. You don’t have to prove yourself to anyone so you don’t have to worry anymore about trying. There are questions that you can ask yourself to see if the battle is worth arguing about or conversing about. Will it matter to your life if they agree with your or not? Will you change your mind if they don’t agree with you? The answer to both of these questions is probably no. If you can say no to these two questions then there is no need to make a big deal out of it. You are making choices in your life to further your life in the direction that you want it to go. This is all that matters, not what others think but what you think of your choices and beliefs.
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