Choose the Right Partner for You

Almost everyone who is searching for their other half have an ideal partner with certain traits and characteristics. The majority of us want a partner with characteristics, such as intelligence, honesty, stability, good communicator, and common interests. It is a scientific fact, however, that each gender pays attention more closely to different qualities, even though women and men seek similar traits. Women often look for a connection, and men often want autonomy out of a relationship.

When you are starting your search for the perfect partner, think about your preferred behaviors and traits. Many think of eye color or height, but superficial traits are not the most important.

If you want a long-term, healthy relationship, here are some qualities that are important to consider:

1.  Personal Growth Commitment
·         Interested to know how to be a better partner or person
·         Aware of emotional weaknesses and baggage
·         Has self-improvement personal goals

2.  Open Emotionally
·         Aware of own feelings
·         Able to express feelings
·         Desires to openly express feelings with partner

3.  Integrity
·         Honest with others and themselves
·         Is honest about feelings and wants

4. Responsibility and Maturity
·         Pays bills, cleans house, manages finances
·         Ability to care for themselves
·         On time, follows through with promises and doesn’t let others down
·         Respects your values, time, feelings, and boundaries.

5.  Good Self-esteem
·         Without arrogance, takes pride in themselves
·         Takes care of their car, possessions, living environment, and health
·         Will not allow mistreatment

6.  Thinks Positively Toward Life

·         Instead of focusing on problems, focuses on solutions
·         Can take an obstacle and turn it into an opportunity
·         Sees the positive aspects of situations and people


Certain traits that should be left alone to avoid a fatal relationship are:

·         Anger and short temper
·         Addictions to drugs, alcohol, or sex
·         Feelings of being a victim
·         Has a sexual dysfunction
·         Hasn’t grown up yet
·         Unavailable emotionally
·         Is emotionally damaged from childhood
·         Hasn’t moved on from a past relationship

Think About and Analyze Yourself

Think about what has been holding you back in regards to having a good relationship. Maybe a past relationship is still hurting you or maybe a commitment scares you. Find a way to resolve the issue after you identify it. Learn from past relationships, such as mistakes, aspects you would and wouldn’t like to have in a future relationship, and what other factors will affect your decision when choosing your next partner. Some factors are religious background, cultural norms, male and female role expectations, and socioeconomic status. Think about what your core values are and what you are not going to be willing to change or bend.

Analyze Your Relationship

Continue to examine your partner once you are finally in a relationship and look at your compatibility. Don’t overlook issues just to be in a relationship, such as ignoring potential problems or warning signs. Other mistakes are making compromises to eliminate activities, because they don’t like them or reducing communication with friends and family your partner doesn’t like. Determine if your partner’s core values fit with your core values, because they are so important and you should share them.

Communicate with your Partner

Do not think twice about asking your partner questions. It is very important to learn about your partner, as well as your partner’s family relationships. You will have a better insight about your partner when you learn about family relationships.

Some questions you should ask are:

1.       What are your hobbies? When you were younger, what did you do for fun? How often are you able to have fun? How many times a week do you enjoy leisure activities? When you want to relax, what do you do? What are your vacations often like? When you were growing up, what were your friendships like?

2.       How do you deal with difficult situations and tough times in your life?

3.       When you were growing up, what were your parents like? Did you parents get along? What has changed about you throughout your life so far?

4.       What are your future plans and your attitude toward handling and spending money? Do you assist with household chores? What do you like to chat about and what kind of conversations do you often try to avoid?

Be Patient

Overall, take your time because it is critical to know what your wants, needs and values are before starting a relationship. Get to know your partner’s history, values, personality, and ideals to figure out whether a quality relationship can come of it.