Being Alone… Drop Facebook For A While
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You would have to attend one of my advocate speeches or a group for young adults that I contribute to when I am free to fully understand what happened with Facebook and my delusions. Overall I have almost been off of Facebook for six months now. It is possible to not have a Facebook account and to be okay with it while everyone else in your family or friends have one. I admit, it is hard to stay in the ‘now’ with people’s lives, but I realized it isn’t really healthy to go online and see what everyone in our life is doing on a computer. I used to love going onto Facebook and seeing things happen on my newsfeed. However, because of my history with Facebook I have had to find other ways to connect with people and I think I have benefited from it.
I used to stalk people’s profiles, especially guys that I liked. The creepy part is that people put a lot online, and if it isn’t online, you can talk to them on Facebook chat, and you can gain a personal perspective that way. There is something special about interacting with people though. I may be a million years late on the fact that "Natalie traveled to Spain", or that "Cassie got married", or that "Erin shot a huge deer in her backyard and is going to eat it for lunch", or that "Shaun bought a new DVD player that is hooked up to his new sound system", etc. I may be a late bloomer now socially, but I don’t care. I have made the right choice giving Facebook and Twitter up and a few others for my sanity.
I was a Facebook addict. I didn’t know it at the time, but I am now better and well aware of my actions. I know how close I was to seriously going crazy where I would have never been able to turn around to where I am today. So much of what we do these days is dependent on a person or persons input or point of view. We always want advise when we are making a huge decision which is understandable, but I think we will often find that we rarely make a decision solely by ourselves.
When we are affected by a mental illness if we like it or not we have to make more than a few decisions by ourselves when it comes to treatment and how we take care of ourselves. In fact I bet more than a few of my readers have had that annoying time where you want someone to give you advice but they don’t know what to say to you. For those impacted by mental illness, even if you have a Facebook profile now, mental illness most likely has positively affected you in someway. Mental illness should make you more independent if anything. If it doesn’t, don’t worry, your independence has always been in front of you, but you just haven’t claimed it yet. This can go for your life. It is there for us, so we just have to choose the time to claim it!
Facebook is company for us when no physical body is with us as we go about our day. The idea that we always have to have people or some social aspect around us daily should be something that as a human we should not be as addicted to. I am not saying social life is horrible because, I mean . . . I am a manic person sometimes and even when I am not, I love being social because it protects me from depression when I am going through a depressive episode. Socially it is important for us to be social so we evolve as an individual. The thing is that Facebook never gives us time alone. Life doesn’t leave us alone. We all go about our business during the day and the breaks that we take are not what our mind, body, or soul need to recharge.
Because people who have bipolar for example have an over active brain, when they are well they learn fast how important it is to take care of themselves and to really practice mindfulness. For example, the act of grounding themselves to reality and taking care of their mood can be accomplished by practicing mood hygiene. We have to realize that we don’t need to always be connected to the people that we think are setting an example of how life should be lived to be sane. We have to realize that our mental illness gives us an excuse to really bathe in who we are as a person and no one else. If we take enough time to examine each of our situations as we live with our mental illness I promise we should all be able to discover how having such a special personal relationship with our brains can be.
- Susan Page