5 Ways to Improve Your Marriage
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Are you married? Are there issues in your marriage? Are you unsure of where those issues are coming from? If you can answer yes to any of these questions then you are like many others who want to improve their marriage but they are not sure of how they can do so. I have been married for almost 5 years and for the most part of our marriage we have had many issues. We are working very hard on fixing some of them now but it is complicated especially when neither one of us are experts are fixing a relationship. We have attended marriage counseling and I have done much research on the subject. I believe that I have come up with 5 ways to improve a marriage that we are using in our relationship and that I hope others can use in their relationship as well.
What are the 5 ways that you can improve your marriage?
A marriage is a journey at which two people should walk together and support each other. In my marriage I have found that when two people walk in front or behind each other the relationship tends to start falling apart. I have also learned that relationships have to be give and take as well. There are so many skills that it takes to be married to someone but when these skills can be mastered a marriage can be a very beautiful thing.
A relationship must be 100%/100%. As just mentioned above, a relationship can’t be 50/50. I know that when I was growing up I learned that relationships were just that, 50/50. I had learned that each person has to give just as much as they take. However, that is not how things work. There is not going to be any time in a marriage when one person is just as emotionally or as physically strong as the other. This means that each person must give the marriage their all in order to make it work. You can’t only give half of what you’ve got and you can’t only take half of what you need either.
A relationship must be based upon trust and honesty. When it comes to a marriage trust and honesty are the keys to holding everything together. I have gone the last 3 to 4 years of my marriage without being fully honest with myself or my husband and I believe there has been a bit of that on his side as well. Now that we are working on things we both know that we have to be honest with each other about the small things and the important things too. We know that we can’t just leave things out or not talk to one another about things because we don’t feel it will do any good. Keeping things from one another will always hurt a relationship, especially when that relationship is a marriage.
Always keep open and healthy communication with each other. During a marriage there are many issues that may arise. The way to overcome those issues with each other or that you may have with yourself is to communicate with your spouse. Lack of communication is one of the highest reasons for divorce. If in a marriage, both partners would just communicate with each other in a healthy way, then they would find the relationship becomes much more enjoyable. Some tips for doing this include staying calm during conversations, keeping serious conversations to shorter periods (separate them into different time frames so that neither partner is getting too overwhelmed) and more.
Talk with each other about the past, the present and the future. Another great way to improve a marriage is to talk with each other about the past. The past is part of why we are who we are today. I have gone through so much heartache in the past that I have never dealt with up until now. My husband knows about these things and is being supportive. You must also talk about the present. When in a marriage, talking about day to day things and how each of you are doing throughout the day can keep your marriage alive. The future is important as well. You and your partner should share common life goals and work on those goals together.
Marriage is a bond that can be stronger than any other. When you use the tips talked about above to improve your marriage you can make the bond that you have with your partner stronger than almost any other bond that you have.